Well, the update on Ella's new sleeping arrangement is this.
Night One: Ella woke up as we were getting in bed wanting to nurse. (I thought her own room was supposed to prevent that!!) So I laid down on the bed in her room and nursed her... until we both fell asleep and didn't wake up until Paul got up to get ready for work. So, that wasn't exactly what I had in mind.
Night Two: I successfully slept in my own room! For two hours, where I woke up, I swear, every fifteen minutes wondering if Ella was okay. So, more sad news, Ella sleeps better in her own room than I sleep in my own room. :) Finally, (two hours is a LONG time when you're trying to sleep) I just got up and slept in the bed in her room again. Baby steps, right?
Tonight (night three) the plan is, bring the baby monitor in our room (even though her room is only ten feet away from our bed, and I KNOW I can hear her) and turn it all the way up and leave it right next to my head. Paul laughed at this idea, but I asked him very nicely if he would just feed my neurosis for a couple of more nights, so that maybe I could permenantly transition into having my own room again.
I never, ever thought I would have this problem. Remember the days when I swore I wouldn't be one of those "obsessive moms"? Yeah, I'm eating crow.